suchipi asked: Ever since all my friends moved away for college, I've had a craving for in-person social interaction I can't satiate. As a result, I've become too clingy to some of my closer friends and even gotten into awkward situations where I developed crushes on them. How can I maintain friendships when those friends aren't obligated to come to school every day and see me?
I think most people have their own difficulties adjusting to life after high-school. Social life as an adult is quite different; you probably won’t see all the people you want to see as often as you did as a teenager. It can be depressing as a result.
From the ups and downs that I’ve experienced with this (I’m 23 and have had 6-7 years to adjust) I think the best thing for you to do is figure out what your friends are looking for in your friendship. How much time in their lives are they willing to give you? If you feel you need to demand more than they are willing to give, then it might be a good idea to distance yourself from that relationship. Tough but true.
Openness and honesty are key to any good friendship so just be clear with them what you’re looking for in your relationship. If this weirds them out then they weren’t the best of friends to begin with and if they really are good friends then they should try and accommodate your needs. Don’t think of it as being selfish - there is a give and take in any relationship.
As far as developing a crush on friends, at this stage, I think it’s most likely a result of the sudden loneliness that is thrust upon you after graduating. Try talking with them first, take your time and think it through before acting on any feelings that may or may not be genuine.